[Bungleau]

I'd offer another option... you can spend time with her, but keep your kids away. As an adult, you're better equipped to deal with whatever strangeness she's going through, while your kids are not. So keep them away. If anyone asks, just tell 'em you want to be able to focus on Grandma in her last time, and the kids would keep you distracted.

Heck, anyone who's got kids knows the truth of that one!

It's rough, though, when that happens. When my grandmother was heading towards her death, I visited her in the retirement facility. She hadn't gone down for dinner, so I went down and brought it to her. She ate a couple of things, but didn't want to eat much. When one of the staff mentioned that I had gone through the effort of getting dinner for her, she snapped, "Nobody asked him to!"

Approaching the end of your life changes you in a lot of ways. Sometimes, physical and emotional changes make it even worse.

Only other thing I can do is bid you peace and comfort for yourself.