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pritchke · 02-19-2007, 04:19 PM

Update, I think my wife is going to bring him home as she as his house cleared out and will put it on the market and we will go back in the spring and I will dig the hole myself.

[img]graemlins/rant.gif[/img] My brother in-law a real piece of work. My wifes dad had her brother on as his death beneficiary and her brother took the money than left everything else for her to deal with. While I know legally it is his, normally people use it to pay funeral cost and split the remainder with siblings especially if it is there parents wish. Her dad did say he wanted every thing split between the three children but was not very detailed in his will with things like this, as he did not know the difference. So he forgot to put that in his will and the brother just split because the lawyer said it was his gift, from what I know of my father in-law he is rolling over in his grave. I expected as much from the brother in-law as he at one point before my wife and I were married, had kicked her out of the home they had, and was still making her pay mortgage payments, when you have a brother like that who needs brothers. I eventually made her stop and said you can either sell the house and split the profits with him but don't give him anymore money as you are not living there anymore, as well I was pretty sick of paying her car insurance for her. Anyway she signed her name off the house because he demanded it (I paid the $30 for paper work as he is a cheep bastard) and she didn't get anything for it even though their parents gave them both 3000 as a deposit when they bought it. She was foolish to sign her name off but did so because she didn't want to force her brother out of the house, or could not stand his constant nagging, possibly the later, she is much nicer than me. It did stop his pestering and complaining for awhile. Then another time he sold me his new computer so I took it for $200 a month until it was paid off more as a favor than anything, because it was not worth what I paid for it, foolish me I thought he would actually appreciate what I was doing for him. Than a week after I took it home he was phoning all the time demanding all his money even though I could not afford it all at once. My wife did lots of stuff for him and one time she asked him to look after her dogs to return the many, many favors and he agreed as we were going to visit her dad. When the time came and I had the van packed my wife came home crying and said he was no longer going to do it because he was in one of his foul moods. Like thanks for the last minute warning at that point I snapped and phoned him calling him every name under the sun because until that point I never said anything to him. Good thing we were not visiting my parents as it would have involved a plane and me being out thousands of dollars, and possibly ending up in jail as I would have done more than rant at him. Then he was telling people how I snapped and could not understand what I was so mad over. Any way that is my rant on my useless piece of crap brother in-law who is always there for an handout or money but never does anything useful for anyone unless he can somehow benefit himself. One of those people who are all nice and polite then when they get what they want are gone never to be heard from until they need something else or are angry and need someone to blame for his problems. For Xmas he bought his Dad a fruit basket then phoned and asked if he had any money to give him, real classy of him. He was always bumming money off his parents, and the last time he saw his Dad was when his mother died. One time he said he was going to visit him because he was in the area and never showed up and he was in the area, my father in-law was very hurt. He ask his Dad to move to Calgary and live with him, very nice of him, my father in-law said, "I am not moving in with that miserable sod he just wants my money to help pay his mortgage." and that was exactly the reason why he asked. We asked to but so we could be closer and keep an eye on him. At least my wife now sees her brother for what he truly is and other than this funeral we will never have to deal with him again, although these pieces of crap always have a way of floating to the surface. I will PM his e-mail to anyone who wants to give him a piece of there mind. Did I mention his job is telemarketer, the annoying people who phone you 24/7 asking for money. I am not mad at him for receiving or taking the death benefit but more so what all the past transactions we have had with him done and if he split it with his siblings he would have saved face a little as it was the moral thing to do. I would even have forgave all his past actions as if I add up what he has cost me it would have been about equal.

[ 02-19-2007, 04:31 PM: Message edited by: pritchke ]

02-19-2007, 04:19 PM	#7
pritchke Bastet - Egyptian Cat Goddess Join Date: September 5, 2001 Location: Calgary, AB Age: 50 Posts: 3,491	Update, I think my wife is going to bring him home as she as his house cleared out and will put it on the market and we will go back in the spring and I will dig the hole myself. [img]graemlins/rant.gif[/img] My brother in-law a real piece of work. My wifes dad had her brother on as his death beneficiary and her brother took the money than left everything else for her to deal with. While I know legally it is his, normally people use it to pay funeral cost and split the remainder with siblings especially if it is there parents wish. Her dad did say he wanted every thing split between the three children but was not very detailed in his will with things like this, as he did not know the difference. So he forgot to put that in his will and the brother just split because the lawyer said it was his gift, from what I know of my father in-law he is rolling over in his grave. I expected as much from the brother in-law as he at one point before my wife and I were married, had kicked her out of the home they had, and was still making her pay mortgage payments, when you have a brother like that who needs brothers. I eventually made her stop and said you can either sell the house and split the profits with him but don't give him anymore money as you are not living there anymore, as well I was pretty sick of paying her car insurance for her. Anyway she signed her name off the house because he demanded it (I paid the $30 for paper work as he is a cheep bastard) and she didn't get anything for it even though their parents gave them both 3000 as a deposit when they bought it. She was foolish to sign her name off but did so because she didn't want to force her brother out of the house, or could not stand his constant nagging, possibly the later, she is much nicer than me. It did stop his pestering and complaining for awhile. Then another time he sold me his new computer so I took it for $200 a month until it was paid off more as a favor than anything, because it was not worth what I paid for it, foolish me I thought he would actually appreciate what I was doing for him. Than a week after I took it home he was phoning all the time demanding all his money even though I could not afford it all at once. My wife did lots of stuff for him and one time she asked him to look after her dogs to return the many, many favors and he agreed as we were going to visit her dad. When the time came and I had the van packed my wife came home crying and said he was no longer going to do it because he was in one of his foul moods. Like thanks for the last minute warning at that point I snapped and phoned him calling him every name under the sun because until that point I never said anything to him. Good thing we were not visiting my parents as it would have involved a plane and me being out thousands of dollars, and possibly ending up in jail as I would have done more than rant at him. Then he was telling people how I snapped and could not understand what I was so mad over. Any way that is my rant on my useless piece of crap brother in-law who is always there for an handout or money but never does anything useful for anyone unless he can somehow benefit himself. One of those people who are all nice and polite then when they get what they want are gone never to be heard from until they need something else or are angry and need someone to blame for his problems. For Xmas he bought his Dad a fruit basket then phoned and asked if he had any money to give him, real classy of him. He was always bumming money off his parents, and the last time he saw his Dad was when his mother died. One time he said he was going to visit him because he was in the area and never showed up and he was in the area, my father in-law was very hurt. He ask his Dad to move to Calgary and live with him, very nice of him, my father in-law said, "I am not moving in with that miserable sod he just wants my money to help pay his mortgage." and that was exactly the reason why he asked. We asked to but so we could be closer and keep an eye on him. At least my wife now sees her brother for what he truly is and other than this funeral we will never have to deal with him again, although these pieces of crap always have a way of floating to the surface. I will PM his e-mail to anyone who wants to give him a piece of there mind. Did I mention his job is telemarketer, the annoying people who phone you 24/7 asking for money. I am not mad at him for receiving or taking the death benefit but more so what all the past transactions we have had with him done and if he split it with his siblings he would have saved face a little as it was the moral thing to do. I would even have forgave all his past actions as if I add up what he has cost me it would have been about equal. [ 02-19-2007, 04:31 PM: Message edited by: pritchke ]