I am a new father. My son is 10 months old. We are expecting another boy in 3 months. I feel for you man. Honestly, I can't stand when my baby cries. He literally screams when he is bored, stuck, can't do something, hungry, etc. Sometimes I get so frustrated with it, that I scream back. Usually he's so surprised with my reaction, he just looks at me with amazement. Or maybe it's just the shear volume and tone of my yell. Either way, he usually stops. Sometimes he just cries more. When this happens, I pick him up and tell him, "It's ok. Daddy didn't mean to yell. I just don't like to hear you screaming." Honestly, I can't wait until he can walk and listen to what I say. That way, when he acts up, I can send him to his room. If he cries, send him to his room. I will always explain why I do things to him. I can recall being punished many times by parents/guardians and feeling the punishment unjust. I do feel that, had they explained the reasoning to me, I still would've been mad, but not at them because I would've believed that they were right.
I guess what I'm getting at is this: ALL parents get stressed and tense when raising kids. Kids are NOT what they are made out to be. Crying DOES irritate people. Some people can handle these and other stressors better than others. WALK AWAY!! Not always an option (for more than a min. anyway), but it works. Whenever I'm around my boy, it's always right after work. After working all night, I don't want to hear screaming. If it happens, I leave. Go outside, go in another room, or leave FAR FAR AWAY!! j/k At any rate, you should definately make it a point to leave your children with a babysitter for at least 1 FULL day each month. (I use my mom cuz it's free) This should help deal with some of that stress.
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