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Tabitha Silverwill · 12-13-2001, 03:39 PM

I really, really, really feel for you. You probably still want to be able to love her and be with her and ignore all of the negatives of the relationship. The problem is that you can't. You (and she) deserve more. No relationship is 100% but one which is less than 65% healthy most of the time shouldn't really be dragged out. If it is, I would tend to think it's due to both parties being too scared of life without the security of an emotional bolthole.

Might get flamed for this, but I was in a dire situation 9 months ago. Bottom dropped out of my life and I was left distraught. Thought that forever meant forever but was proved wrong.

I don't know enough about the situation but I believe that a breakup is always easier in the long run when it is thrust upon you rather than being the person who dumps the other. That way you aren't wondering 6 months down the line whether you made the right decision or not. Having said that at least as the instigator, you have prior warning emotionally of the breakup.

The only thing I can say to you is that in 6 months time, you will be feeling better than you do now. You will be able to love again (albeit tentitively at first, as I am), you will be able to smile, laugh, joke and enjoy yourself again. With a bit more time you might even be able to ponder on the lovely parts of the relationship and look back in fondness, instead of pain, at the happy emotions she caused you to experience.

You WILL feel better - I did.

Many hugs, rubs and soft tissues to you. Take your time.

xo

12-13-2001, 03:39 PM	#30
Tabitha Silverwill Dungeon Master Join Date: August 11, 2001 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 91	I really, really, really feel for you. You probably still want to be able to love her and be with her and ignore all of the negatives of the relationship. The problem is that you can't. You (and she) deserve more. No relationship is 100% but one which is less than 65% healthy most of the time shouldn't really be dragged out. If it is, I would tend to think it's due to both parties being too scared of life without the security of an emotional bolthole. Might get flamed for this, but I was in a dire situation 9 months ago. Bottom dropped out of my life and I was left distraught. Thought that forever meant forever but was proved wrong. I don't know enough about the situation but I believe that a breakup is always easier in the long run when it is thrust upon you rather than being the person who dumps the other. That way you aren't wondering 6 months down the line whether you made the right decision or not. Having said that at least as the instigator, you have prior warning emotionally of the breakup. The only thing I can say to you is that in 6 months time, you will be feeling better than you do now. You will be able to love again (albeit tentitively at first, as I am), you will be able to smile, laugh, joke and enjoy yourself again. With a bit more time you might even be able to ponder on the lovely parts of the relationship and look back in fondness, instead of pain, at the happy emotions she caused you to experience. You WILL feel better - I did. Many hugs, rubs and soft tissues to you. Take your time. xo __________________ <p>Regret nothing.