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Originally posted by Garnet FalconDance:
A. becomes *extremely* irate when I see them together and I admonish him...yells that I can't choose his friends for him--that he'll be friends with whomever he chooses
I'm 36, my son is 13 1/2, and we haven't had this problem
yet thank goodness, but it's coming and I know it.
Pretty much, A.'s right about the statement above. You can't choose his friends. You can try to limit his abilty to see those you object too, but I think you know that isn't going to work....short of locking him in the basement [img]smile.gif[/img] . In fact, it will encourage him to rebel against your choices. This doesn't mean you let him do anything he wants to either, but you have to find the fine line between showing your disapproval without forcing it down his throat. Easier said than done, huh?
I remember being that age all too well, and I remember that my parent's dislike for a certain girl encouraged me to sneak around and see her whenever I could. I was so busy liking her to spite my parents, that it took me quite a while to realize I really didn't like her that much.
We try to guide our kids in the right direction, but ultimately, it's life that teaches the lessons, and we can only watch in joy or horror. We do however get credit for our efforts when they grow up. Then when they have kids of their own, we get
payback! My dad loves it! [img]smile.gif[/img] .