How do you know if it's love?

[Charean]

I had to think about this.

When you know someone's flaws and faults and wouldn't change a thing about them... and those very things are endearing

When you can tell them postively ANYTHING and they do the same with you...

When you read each other so well, you can finish each other's sentences...

When you have a great deal in common and that person is a friend and companion as well as romantic interest...

When you have similar goals in life of who you want to be and have basic integrity in common (mind you, this just makes it easier, but not really in the love thing)

When you are apart, you can "feel" the other's presence with you

When you can be your essential self, and not change who you are to please them

When you are happy because this person brings out your best qualities...

Then I think you have a good chance at lasting love, friend.


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Defender for the Light -
Goodness knows there is a lot of Dark out there!! - Where are my matches?!?
Wandering Soul - Finding my life's calling is Bodhisattva
And so, in the way of life, one must perservere in the face of adversity (or in this case, the face of a fluffy) and continue on the quest so bring truth, justice and the feng shui way to the world (or at least, make my truck look nice!)
And if you are still reading, I am taking suggestions for my next installment...

[WOLFGIR]

Love is something you don´t know, can´t tell can´t prove.. it´just there, bites your butt when you are not looking. You will feel it in the most curious moments and you can´t provoke it to show itself, cause it is there, or it is not.
It is not a perfect feeling cause when you doubed it is either there or it is not, even if you are not or are in love.

As you see, he, my feelings for love ain´t that clear, cause it has never been. It is hard to tell, but sometimes when you don´t lookfor it, you will feel it. Remember thoose times and see if you still got some of that in your heart, then you probably are in love..

guess it is different for most persons. I haven´t felt love in a couple of years so i guess it will storm down on me when I don´t expect it too and make a mess out of everything hehe!

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Yawning lazywolf dreaming about nice little fairies...zzzzz

[Cavern Sniffer]

Love is a simple thing,
it makes a man a fool,
it takes away his everything,
and wears away his tool.


PS. Blame C.


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It's bleedin dark down here, slippery too.
Man, that's a pisser.

[Bahamut]

well... ii just know... we will all.. just *know*... trust me.

but then here's another thing, we should know if its infatuation or love... i know its love coz its developed, not coz of sexual attraction, and i care about her welfare more than mine... id die for her... thats why i know... sorta

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Yukishiro Tomoe

[GlassMaiden]

I'm no authority on love.. even though I've been married longer than most of you have been alive. But one thing I've learned.. there is a difference between "loving " someone and "being in love".
I think when you love someone, they are uppermost in your mind. What ever mundane thing you do during the day, you know that it affects them, and you are considerate of them and their feelings.
Loving someone is looking for something that you can share with them at the end of the day. Reassuring them that they are the ones that make it possible to get through "impossible" days. There is a feeling of contentment and completeness when you are in a love relationship.
Being in love gives you the giddiness, the rush to the head and stomach.. the feeling that you are 18 years old again.. ( only if you are way past 18 that is). But it fades quickly.. not so with love.

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There's more to seeing than eyes, more to life than a body.

[Ramon de Ramon y Ramon]

Originally posted by Jerome: It hurts like hell and never turns out well.

Well, dear Jerome, I have already told you on another occasion that you were a sage far beyond your age !

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So long !

R³ - proud to be the official spokesman for the most noble Lady Bilqis, Desert Rose of Ironworks

Btw, the cow is queuing in the slaughterhouse right now !

[This message has been edited by Ramon de Ramon y Ramon (edited 06-24-2001).]

[Ramon de Ramon y Ramon]

Originally posted by Fljotsdale: Not the easiest question to answer! But I'll try. 1)Most people, when they think they are in love, get a nice buzz from it that is sort of addictive. That is sexual attraction. Nice! But on it's own it is a relatively short-term thing and when it fades you start looking elsewhere. 2)When you share a lot of interests and enjoy each others' company without needing to leap into bed with each other, that's friendship. 3)When a relationship with another person just means getting what you want out of it, that is neither friendship nor sexual attraction. 4) When your relationship with another person means you consider that person's welfare to be of prime importance, regardless of your own interests, than that relationship is valuable. 5) Put 1, 2 & 4 together, chuck 3 out the window, and you just might have a case of real love!

Well, I am afraid that your definition of love is well thought out, but way too idealistic for ordinary people like myself. That degree of selflessness and especially modesty of one's emotional needs that would be necessary to be able to love in that way would require a level of self-assurance and self-wareness so high that I - and I am afraid many, if not most, others - can only dream of ever reaching of it. But all people who don't meet that lofty standard are bound to mainly love to be loved back and to have at least some of their emotional needs taken care of, as well as to receive the public recognition that comes with being in a romantic relationship. So in that way "love" includes very much of what you categorized under No. 3. Unfortunately, you might be right, though, that love in your definition would be much more assured of longevity and long-time stability, which - combined with my point that that kind of love is highly unrealistic for most people - could explain a lot about the volatility of the average romantic relationship. If your definition of love was true, Zeeke's post here wouldn't include the anxious question about the feelings of his love interest's for him, because in that case that wouldn't really matter that much. But as things tend to really are an "I love you !" almost always needs and expects an "I love you, too !".

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So long !

R³ - proud to be the official spokesman for the most noble Lady Bilqis, Desert Rose of Ironworks

Btw, the cow is queuing in the slaughterhouse right now !

[John D Harris]

Zeeke75,
I agree with Flojotsdale's reply. I would add that for Me loving My Wife is a calculted cold decision one that burns with the intensity of 10,000 suns. I Will put her needs above mine, her wants above mine. I Will never intentionally do anything that will cause her hurt.

Divorice is Not an option, Homocide maybe

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"the memories of a man in his old age,
are deeds of a man in his prime"

[Davros]

How do I know it's love - LOL, nothing simpler, I just look for the terrifying warning signs . My tongue develops a whole new mind of its own, and I transform into Davros the amazing lackwit . In fact George's line from Seinfeld springs to mind.

"In the space of 10 minutes I have managed to talk my way out of free season tickets to Madison Square Garden, and a life time of guilt free sex. So don't talk to me about stupid Jerry, because you are in the presence of Costanza - Lord of the Idiots".

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[Lioness]

Sorry, I'm having trouble seeing the page. Once I can read it, I'll give a real answer...
OK, I don't really know, but I would say it's when u know u can spend the rest of your life with that person and be happy

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Official teaser and ranger of the HADB Clan
"Evil round every corner...careful not to step in any."-Minsc

[This message has been edited by Lioness (edited 06-24-2001).]