evil scumbag if I do, homeless for at least another yr if I don't, pls give yr thots

[J.J.]

Originally posted by The Hunter of Jahanna: Here is my 2C on this. I think that you have perfect opportunity to deal the death blow to your cancerous fire breathing EX once and for all!! It will take an uncommon amount of intestinal fortitude on your part , but here is a plan. Get the best home with 2 bedrooms that you can afford. Next have the Judge FORCE THE SALE!! Once your EX is homeless go to your local dept. of social services and request that a "home study" be done. They will come in and look at your house and your Ex's house and rate them on a scale of 1 to 10 based on their own obscure criteria. If your Ex is homeless it shouldnt be too hard to get them to say you have the better home. If your house is found to be better pettition for FULL custody!! With your Ex being already viewed in a less than favorable light and the Dept. of social services saying that your house is better any judge would have a hard time Not granting your request. Here is the final step!! Since your name is on the title to the house I would imagine that you will get a portion of the money. use that to make a down payment on a new house AND pettition the court for child support!! Since you will have custody they pretty much have to grant you some type of support. With a new and better house you insulate yourself from your Ex trying to regain custody. check and MATE!!!! BWahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!

DUUUUUUUUUDE; YOU ROCK! [img]graemlins/cheers.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] I know I could drag her in front of the judge and have him turn her into an occaisonal event in Amanda's life, but let not the eagerness for justice (revenge?) obliterate the obligation of mercy: to wit; Amanda still, and with the non-prejudicial all-accepting love of the truly innocent, loves her mommy. I will not be the one who takes that away from her, her mother is doing that much faster than I ever could. Look, this conversation will take place in the next few years (age of majority in MT is only 13!) me: "Amanda, she is your mom, go and try to remember that she really does love you" :Amanda: "Dad, do I hafta go, the judge said I don't anymore...."

I believe that by that point, I will be the 'bad guy' for making her go visit her mom, but our obligations fall upon us at no predetermined age or circumstance, neglecting to check with us b4 making us enlarge our world view and how effective we can be in it..

Your scenario presents the perfect 'fall guy' in the guise of the agency being the plaintiff in the removal proceedings, instead of me.... must be time to cultivate a professional connection in that particular state office... [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Melusine]

Just wanted to say good luck to you, JJ! Sounds like a rotten situation and I hope it will work out for you!
One of the things that were said in this thread I absolutely agree with, and *know* it too as a child of divorced parents: Kids are smart, they can figure out who's being good and who's being bad on their own. And they also know it if you try to sway their opinion in your favour. AND, yep, like you said - they usually can't help it but love both their parents a lot - even if they don't agree with their actions. If you keep all that in mind I'm sure it will help. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Sir Kenyth]

Sue for the money and/or get the house sold quickly! If she files bankruptcy, it will cause you immesurable financial pain and misery! The 5K she owes you will likely get wiped! You will also be the next one they come to for the mortgage! You will also have a HELL of a time getting her evicted so you can sell the property! Either you'll pay a lot of money for nothing or your credit will be completely screwed for seven years from a house repossession! Also, THAT 5K DEBT IS NOT SECURED WITH THE HOUSE UNLESS SPECIFIED IN THE PAPERWORK! That means you have to have a lien on the house for the 5K she owes you and you have to make sure and provide evidence of that to the court before a barkruptcy is finalized. If she hasn't made payments on it yet you can force a lien on the house with court action. It's too damn risky to be sitting in your current position. It's like staying bent over in the state prison showers with your eyes shut. Sooner or later, something really bad is bound to come from it! Nothing is going to make these people move short of a hefty boot in the buttocks. There is absolutely no benefit for them to do it and all the reason not to. The simple threat of impending litigation is what it's going to take, and you'll have to do it quickly before she starts contemplating bankruptcy. Get started now because the courts aren't quick! She could be going through bankruptcy right now and you may not even know it! DUDE, TAKE CARE OF THIS NOW!!!!!! Before it's too late and you wind up doing a lot of this! [img]graemlins/1drunk.gif[/img]

[Sir Kenyth]

Ummm...Bump

J.J., I just wanted to make sure you read my last post. This is kind of an important issue. For you at least.