LOVE ON THE NET - Page 2

Reeka · 05-26-2003, 08:28 PM

Well, I think it is like "real life" (I hate using that term.) Some relationships work out and other don't. I just got back last night from spending 10 days "meeting" Bardan. As most of you know, we have been an "on-line" thing for nearly 2 years and do to various and sundry circumstances had not gotten to meet until last week. We DID got on as well in "real life" as we do on-line, but----that is not always the case.

I view the internet as just another avenue to meeting people. I do think it has some pluses as well. You are forced to communicate (hard to have it be just looks and sex on line). Also, I think it makes it easier for shy people or introverts.

But the bottom line is, it comes down to two people and a relationship. It's hell when they don't work out and someone usually gets hurt, but it is great when it does work out.

Love is a risky business no matter how it happens.

Charlie · 05-26-2003, 08:28 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Aelia Jusa:

I don't think anyone could say they're in a serious relationship with someone online if they have no plans to ever meet and are not being honest at least on their end. But I think it's as valid a place as any to meet someone. How much more real is it meeting someone in a bar when you're both drunk and you can't hear yourselves talk anyway?

I couldn't agree more. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

Cloudbringer · 05-26-2003, 09:54 PM

Got to agree with Epona, Reeka and Aelia, Kaltia, Mysticelt, etc!

My fiance and I met online on a message board, then starting chatting in ICQ and msn voicechat, met in person about 4 months later, he moved out here about a year after we met and now *see this thread*.

So yes, it can work just as well as meeting someone on the street, in a bar, shopping mall or at your cousin's.

I agree, it could also NOT work, but as Aelia points out, that happens all the time online and offline.

PS: REEKA! Fantastic news! I'm so glad you got to visit with Bardan! [img]smile.gif[/img]

Sparhawk · 05-26-2003, 10:37 PM

Heh...I can see a point to almost everyones reply...actually ALL of them *LOL*
I was just wondering about myself...being a bit insecure after two crashed relationsships and when I say crashed I mean CRASHED AND BURNED IN THE DEEPEST PIT OF THE ABYSS!
My latest girlfriend turned out to be in need of psichiatric treatment...she just couldn´t keep to the truth and ended up tryin to kill herself two months after we split up...only a quick reaction from me saved her and I had her brought to care...I´m glad though she blames me for a lot today due to me walking out of it after some time...her new boyfriend got the attention and I laid down the groundwork...not an easy task knowing that the one I loved didn´t really think the same of me anymore...

The reason for makin the post was to see what others felt like esp. about the second life on the net thing...

I´m glad for the replies....

cormack · 05-26-2003, 10:43 PM

My uncle and his girlfriend met onliine and dated 6 months after that. They still really like each other so who knows

But really use common sense of the current technology and have fun is all I can add

Cloudbringer · 05-27-2003, 08:40 AM

Well, I think we can all tell stories of not-so-great meetings in person so it isn't unusual to have same in online relationships!

In online meetings you have more time to think about what you will say, more time to get used to each other without worrying 'is my hair ok, did I brush my teeth, will he notice I buttoned my shirt crooked?' kind of stuff. But on the other hand, in person you get the body language signals, the facial expressions and tone of voice. Although, that last is less an issue if you use voicechat or phone to converse.

Bahamut · 05-28-2003, 12:19 AM

well all i can say is... just go with the flow! look what happened to our lovely IW couples here... don't refuse anything i guess is the best bet... but then precaution is the only thing you should be equipped with... cyberbuddies or no, same thing... you will be able to meet this person who will really find YOU...

Epona · 05-28-2003, 08:13 AM

Oh blimey. Been speaking to a guy online all week. For the last couple of days we've been chatting all day. He seems so sweet. I hope he fancies me when we meet. Bit nervous about it. All in a tizzy I am. Fingers crossed.

Bahamut · 05-28-2003, 08:27 AM

i hope everything goes well!!! and better tell me about it good or bad

Melusine · 05-28-2003, 08:34 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Epona:
Oh blimey. Been speaking to a guy online all week. For the last couple of days we've been chatting all day. He seems so sweet. I hope he fancies me when we meet. Bit nervous about it. All in a tizzy I am. Fingers crossed.

Fingers crossed here too, Laura! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] Which one is this? We want details!

When are you meeting up?

[ 05-28-2003, 08:39 AM: Message edited by: Melusine ]

05-26-2003, 08:28 PM	#11
Reeka Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: March 2, 2001 Location: Birmingham, Alabama, USA Age: 71 Posts: 3,255	Well, I think it is like "real life" (I hate using that term.) Some relationships work out and other don't. I just got back last night from spending 10 days "meeting" Bardan. As most of you know, we have been an "on-line" thing for nearly 2 years and do to various and sundry circumstances had not gotten to meet until last week. We DID got on as well in "real life" as we do on-line, but----that is not always the case. I view the internet as just another avenue to meeting people. I do think it has some pluses as well. You are forced to communicate (hard to have it be just looks and sex on line). Also, I think it makes it easier for shy people or introverts. But the bottom line is, it comes down to two people and a relationship. It's hell when they don't work out and someone usually gets hurt, but it is great when it does work out. Love is a risky business no matter how it happens. __________________ <b>Order of the Holy Flame</b><br /><i>Member of Clan HADB</i><br /><b>Laughing Hyena</b><br /><i>Clan Liaison, IW Peace Keeping Force</i><br /><i>[url]\"http://www.the-silver-river.com/Forum/index.php?board=29\" target=\"_blank\">The Silver River VoiceChat!</a><br />Last Saturday of every month. <br />See the forum link for scheduling!<br /><b> </b><br /></i><br /><b>Admin and Co-Owner of [url]\"http://www.the-silver-river.com\" target=\"_blank\">The Silver River</a></b><br />[url]\"http://www.the-silver-river.com\" target=\"_blank\"></a>

05-26-2003, 09:54 PM	#13
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	Got to agree with Epona, Reeka and Aelia, Kaltia, Mysticelt, etc! My fiance and I met online on a message board, then starting chatting in ICQ and msn voicechat, met in person about 4 months later, he moved out here about a year after we met and now see this thread. So yes, it can work just as well as meeting someone on the street, in a bar, shopping mall or at your cousin's. I agree, it could also NOT work, but as Aelia points out, that happens all the time online and offline. PS: REEKA! Fantastic news! I'm so glad you got to visit with Bardan! [img]smile.gif[/img] __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

05-26-2003, 10:37 PM	#14
Sparhawk Quintesson Join Date: June 2, 2001 Location: In the oldest monarchy - Denmark Age: 47 Posts: 1,071	Heh...I can see a point to almost everyones reply...actually ALL of them LOL I was just wondering about myself...being a bit insecure after two crashed relationsships and when I say crashed I mean CRASHED AND BURNED IN THE DEEPEST PIT OF THE ABYSS! My latest girlfriend turned out to be in need of psichiatric treatment...she just couldn´t keep to the truth and ended up tryin to kill herself two months after we split up...only a quick reaction from me saved her and I had her brought to care...I´m glad though she blames me for a lot today due to me walking out of it after some time...her new boyfriend got the attention and I laid down the groundwork...not an easy task knowing that the one I loved didn´t really think the same of me anymore... The reason for makin the post was to see what others felt like esp. about the second life on the net thing... I´m glad for the replies.... __________________ "Between the years when the oceans drank Atlantis and the rise of the sons of Arius. There was an age undreamed of, when shining kingdoms lay spread across the world. Hither came Conan, the cimmarian, sword in hand. It is I, his chronicler who knows well his saga. Now let me tell you of the days of high adventure!" "Unleash the Casey!" "Make no mistake, should you choose to test my resolve in this matter, you will be looking at an outcome that will have a finality, that is beyound your comprehension. And you will not counting the days or the months or the years, but milleniums in a place with no doors!"

05-26-2003, 10:43 PM	#15
cormack Dungeon Master Join Date: September 17, 2002 Location: Maryland Age: 56 Posts: 88	My uncle and his girlfriend met onliine and dated 6 months after that. They still really like each other so who knows But really use common sense of the current technology and have fun is all I can add __________________ [img]\"http://www.angelfire.com/tx6/roboto/cormacksig.gif\" alt=\" - \" />

05-27-2003, 08:40 AM	#16
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	Well, I think we can all tell stories of not-so-great meetings in person so it isn't unusual to have same in online relationships! In online meetings you have more time to think about what you will say, more time to get used to each other without worrying 'is my hair ok, did I brush my teeth, will he notice I buttoned my shirt crooked?' kind of stuff. But on the other hand, in person you get the body language signals, the facial expressions and tone of voice. Although, that last is less an issue if you use voicechat or phone to converse. __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

05-28-2003, 12:19 AM	#17
Bahamut Iron Throne Cult Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Manila, Philippines Age: 40 Posts: 4,864	well all i can say is... just go with the flow! look what happened to our lovely IW couples here... don't refuse anything i guess is the best bet... but then precaution is the only thing you should be equipped with... cyberbuddies or no, same thing... you will be able to meet this person who will really find YOU... __________________ http://makeallthedifference.blogspot.com http://www.bratgirlcentral.com/cgi-b.../ikonboard.cgi

05-28-2003, 08:13 AM	#18
Epona Zartan Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: London, England Age: 54 Posts: 5,164	Oh blimey. Been speaking to a guy online all week. For the last couple of days we've been chatting all day. He seems so sweet. I hope he fancies me when we meet. Bit nervous about it. All in a tizzy I am. Fingers crossed. __________________ [img]\"http://www.wizardrealm.com/images/epona.gif\" alt=\" - \" />

05-28-2003, 08:27 AM	#19
Bahamut Iron Throne Cult Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Manila, Philippines Age: 40 Posts: 4,864	i hope everything goes well!!! and better tell me about it good or bad __________________ http://makeallthedifference.blogspot.com http://www.bratgirlcentral.com/cgi-b.../ikonboard.cgi

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